Parenting a Child with a Rare Disease: Isolation
A challenge that comes with parenting a child with a rare disease – especially a condition that requires a great deal of medical management – is isolation. Sometimes it’s physical isolation, not being able to interact with people, and sometimes it’s a feeling of being disconnected from friends and family. Over the last few years, researchers have identified strategies to help parents of chronically ill children feel more like they have a support network outside their homes.
Some rare diseases can require an intense level of attention from a child’s caregivers. In these cases, parents may find themselves relatively confined to their homes, performing life-saving tasks for their children or providing much needed comfort for a young person in pain or emotional distress. This time commitment precludes small indulgences like coffee with friends, social events. Movies or date nights. Spending the vast majority of their lives in their houses, going out merely to run errands, creates a claustrophobic emotional effect. A 2020 article in The Journal of Pediatrics presented data from multiple studies that demonstrated that parents of chronically ill children suffered from higher rates of depression and anxiety and significant health problems, including cardiovascular disease, that can contribute to greater mortality than parents of healthy children.
Even for those not physically “trapped” in their homes, taking care of a child with a rare disease is psychologically isolating. Friends and other family members, or parents of healthy children, have no concept of the fears and anxiety these parents feel for their children’s future, or the grief of witnessing all the normal fun of a childhood they are missing. Others my empathize, but they cannot fully share the experience, and this disconnect is isolating.
In recent years, some new internet-based interventions have shown promise to alleviate the emotional effects of caregiving for these parents. Youcan read more about these success stories at https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29970358/ and https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30368439/.
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2. Sherifali D, Ali MU, Ploeg J, Markle-Reid M, Valaitis R, Bartholomew A, Fitzpatrick-Lewis D, McAiney C. Impact of Internet-Based Interventions on Caregiver Mental Health: Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis. J Med Internet Res. 2018 Jul 3;20(7):e10668. doi: 10.2196/10668. PMID: 29970358; PMCID: PMC6053616.
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